It’s Garry Shandling’s Book, edited by Judd Apatow

I’m looking forward to seeing you just because you’re you, for no other reason.” – pg. 57

I don’t quite know who I am, and I have to find out.” – pg. 75

I know that if I stay in this business I am in for even worse times, and this is something I have to decide for myself — is it all worth it?” – pg. 88

For his whole life, it was about finding himself. Like the search for himself. And I think, when he was trying to figure out who he was as a comedian, he was trying to figure out himself. […] Garry in life, and in his act, would circle around things. And circle around things. And circle around things. He didn’t care how funny. […] The idea for him wasn’t just to kill in the room. It was to get closer to some idea that he had about himself.” – Ed Solomon, pg. 97

He approached it from a place of How empty am I? Garry felt like he had finished a journey, and in a way, he was right. I think his whole methodology was to basically fall over the finish line for something.” – John Markus, pg. 110

The theme itself was the structure of the show, which was breaking the conventions.” – pg. 168

Don’t identify yourself with your career. You are you. You are not your job.” – pg. 193

The human condition is hilariously awful.” – pg. 213

[Garry] took everything that he didn’t want to be in himself and put it in this character. And then mocked it and said, Isn’t this a terrible way to live?” – Judd Apatow, pg. 253

Garry was such a good writer that it was impossible to rise to his level and have him be satisfied. For the most part you were going to disappoint him because it was like painting with Picasso and he would go, ‘Why are you using red?’ And there was no way to anticipate exactly what he would like and then it would frustrate him.” – Judd Apatow, pg. 257

It is a show about people trying to get love, and that shit gets in the way. They’re trying to figure out, with a little lack of awareness, how to get past that shit to get to the love.” – pg. 279

There are people who seek truth and there are people who manipulate truth for their own good. That’s the conflict in life.” – pg. 295

Just fake it. But Garry could not do that, and the fact that he would bring that to bear on the show, on that scene – his own deep insecurity about not being that hero – was so beautiful and heartbreaking to me.” – David Duchovny, pg. 325

Garry always used people as touch points. To echolocate or to orient himself. He was just looking to get some sense of sonar about, like, Where am I?” – Ed Solomon, pg. 335

Except what I really did is, I hadn’t really lived, I’d devoted myself to working, so then I started traveling and leading a life that involved relationships, good relationships with good people.” – pg. 351

Because like all comics, at some point you start going, Can I survive without it? Who am I without it? […] It’s fucking terrifying. Because what if the train leaves and you can never get back on? That’s the key.” – Jim Carrey, pg. 353

“Garry was a guy that people asked about. If you were known as one of Garry’s friends, people would ask you about Garry.” – David Duchovny, pg. 370

The journals are all about understanding that this path you and I are talking about now is the most important thing in life. And that show business or anything else is secondary.” – pg. 377

He went on to explain what [the Ensō] meant for him: that things don’t always have to come to completion. It’s the process. […] He would talk about the process of getting from this point to this point. That’s where the intuition is, that’s where the wisdom is, that’s where you stumble and fall and you get back up.” – Beth D’Angelo, pg. 380

They say if you worry about the past it’s depression, and if you stress about the future it’s anxiety, and that’s why it’s important to be in the moment.” – Sarah Silverman, pg. 387

All my journey is is to be authentically who I am. Not trying to be somebody else under all circumstances. […] The whole world is confused because they’re trying to be somebody else. To be your true self takes enormous work.” – pg. 389

The only UFOs we see are the ones that slow down for a moment to stare the way we all do when there’s an accident on the side of the road.” – pg. 393

Give more. Give what you didn’t get. Love more. Drop the old story.” – pg. 412

Humor comes from an objective place, which is where the meditation is: the silence.” – pg. 420

“I read somewhere that grief is not a sign of weakness. Grief is just the price you pay to love someone, and I could tell you that Garry was very, very expensive. And that fucker bankrupted me.” – Kevin Nealon, pg. 443